Bridal woes

So, this topic just came to me and I thought “let me put it out there to find out what people think about this”. Haven’t you ever been to a wedding and thought “why the heck does the bride seem so stressed and look so depressed when she really should be excited?” I have actually found myself saying or thinking that more often than I should have, and it truly just baffles me. A wedding day, ANY wedding day is supposed to be a joyous event full of laughter, dancing and mostly love – unless of course it is a forced marriage or a marriage of convenience, then that’s just another topic which I dare not delve into. 

Planning a wedding is something that is stressful and tedious and so it does seem reasonable and understandable that during the planning stages people’s emotions would be sky high. The stress levels get further escalated by the fact that so many people from both families get involved and in trying to accommodate everyone’s desires, the bride-to-be can get quite overwhelmed. It gets to a point where some brides honestly just say “When you get married, just elope girl” or “At this point I just wish I could elope”. And mind you, while trying to please people or involve people in the planning process you also have to consider the budget of the wedding, and that on its own can just be such a mind boggling challenge especially when trying to get everything that you want and need to make the wedding day absolutely perfect. In a nutshell, wedding planning = a whole lot of stress and drama.

Okay, fast forward to the wedding..…yes, the marvellous wedding day is finally here. The bride has just about fought with everybody up until this day – her mother, her husband-to-be, but mostly her bridesmaids; so finally we can say that the drama is over right? Well, not quite so it seems. I have been to weddings where the bride was so upset with her bridesmaids and vice versa that you could have cut the tension with a steak knife. Okay, so there is tension until the bride gets to the chapel – you would think that by then the drama would be over right? That once she saw her beau waiting for her at the end of the aisle all her worries would just melt away right? Hmmmm not quite. I’m telling you that some wedding days literally begin and end with tension. And when I really think about it, I have to ask myself WHY?

I mean I do understand that every woman wants her wedding to be perfect with no glitches; THIS I KNOW. But sometimes I think that in trying to make everything come together with exact precision, we tend to miss the REAL reason why there is a wedding in the first place: Two people coming together in love!!! We completely miss it……all too often actually!! Okay fine you didn’t get the tiffany chairs that you wanted, instead you were simply forced to settle for the plain chairs that now occupy the room which is filled with octagonal shaped tables rather than the round ones that you constantly pestered every individual for, and the itchy lace dress with the protruding shoulder pads that you are wearing was your grandmother's first choice and not yours. But WHO CARES? Of course us women do have some sort of vision and many a dream of how our perfect wedding day should be like, but truthfully getting married to someone you truly love, someone who is your best friend and greatest companion should just get you to smile and let the little things go. This is someone who you have chosen to devote your life to, someone who you have decided to share the rest of your life with – that is a huge step, a wonderful step. Don’t let little things deter you from what is really important on this day, don’t let the material things distract you from what truly matters. Just dance the night away in love with your new husband.