5 – 4 – 3 – 2 Yo! Time is up

They say good things come to those who wait. But after much deliberation, I firmly believe that this phrase should be modified to read “good things come to those who wait, granted they know exactly what it is they are waiting for and granted that whatever it is they are waiting for is worth it”. I say this with much enthusiasm and conviction because in recent years, it has come to my attention that many women partake in the waiting game – mainly waiting for a man to commit – when it is evidently not worth it in some cases. “Worth it” is extremely relative, but while some women ever-so-patiently allow their lovers to slowly but surely cross the finish line into the world of holy matrimony; while they wait for a man to finally make that ultimate decision, many of them could possibly be missing out on something special out there. As harsh as it may sound, it is only the truth; in waiting for something which may never happen, we inevitably forego other possibilities, other opportunities, other potentials.The fact still remains that if a man truly wants to commit to you, by any means possible he WILL make it happen. No games, no lingering uncertainty - he will undoubtedly make it happen.

I’ve often witnessed women put their careers, goals and life plans on hold for a man; often counting down the minutes, hours, months and years while waiting for their significant other to make that crucial decision of whether he wants to commit or not. Infact in some cases, all it takes to get us into a tailspin is for him to whisper, or even utter in passing, the words “I want to make you my wife; I want you to be the mother of my children”.

It is true and without a doubt that in any relationship only the two parties involved can truly know what is happening between them, and only they can evaluate whether their lover is worth the wait; but if for any reason you find yourself in a situation where you repeatedly say or even think “he has learnt his lesson and he will change”, “he is definitely getting better and I believe him when he says he won’t lie and cheat on me again” , “I think once we get married things will get better”, then I beg of you, please sit down and think just how far you are willing to allow another person to disrespect you and disregard your feelings. It is always better to let go of a helpless situation with your last bit of dignity intact than to carry on in it with the hopes that there will eventually be light at the end of the tunnel – that very light could just be an oncoming train.